Forgiving and Forgetting

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.
                                                                                                                 - Mark Twain

"Uh-oh I think I know what she's going to be writing about..the title says it all.." Is that what is going on in your head? Well, I'm no one to beat around the bush so yes, in a way my post title does say it all... How many of you have actually experienced both? Are you stuck in anyone of them? i.e, trying to forgive or trying to forget? Well, just read along then.. You might enjoy the post after all...

Forgiving those who wronged us is hard... is really hard sometimes... but ever realized how hard you are making it for yourself?




I know I can't forgive people easily. All the same, when I don't, it remains on my mind a lot of times "How could they do this to me? After all I have done for them..Couldn't they have been a little more considerate? I can't believe this person behaved that way" and so on and so forth. I find myself in a bad mood, unable to enjoy any other good thing happening around me. And that's really not fair to the other people surrounding me.

How do I eventually forgive? I really have no clue how it happens. That bitter feeling just fades away little by little I suppose. This can be due to several factors like having more things to do, more people to interact with, the dawning fact that I cannot spend the rest of my life having a bitter mindset due to just one experience, getting a long overdue apology... there can be many other reasons.. You might have better reasons than me.For me, it was all of that..I finally was able to do what I am trying to ask you to do and boy, was I happy!!

After forgiving, then comes forgetting...well for me, this is implicit most of the time. Most of the time. Which means not always.I might keep in mind the bad experience while dealing with that person moving forward and sometimes I might not. It's not very definitive for me. But I also know that forgetting is the best if you want to keep alive the relationship. Sure the mirror is broken, but do you want to patch it up?It totally depends on the relationship you shared with the other person. Plus, no grudge is easy to carry on, believe me on that one! :) 

You know what's an equally famous saying? Forgive and Be Forgiven... Well, you may not believe in such a cycle, but sometimes, you might find yourself thinking "Is this happening to me coz of....?". And from my experiences (be it bitter or sweet), I have understood that things eventually do get back at you. That's not the worst part. It gets back at you when you least expect it!! :)

So let go..("HMMPPHH!! she doesn't know what she's asking me to do!!")..Well, if you have reached this end of the post, it obviously shows you are more forgiving than you think you are and you are looking for ways to forgive! So hurray!! It's not as difficult as you thought. "But it will take time for me". Sure it will... it took for me too..but don't be bent on never making amends..You'll never realize it happening, but you'll wake up one morning with you heart less heavy and that is truly an achievement my friends!! In my hubby's language, "It's time to party!!"